No one understands a victim of narcissism like someone who has been there....this blog is to provide information and encouragement to those suffering as victims of narcissistic abuse. There IS life after narcissism!!
Hi Michele, Thank you for all you do.... I guess my bell recently went off and now it all makes sense. My mother is a narcissist and my x is a covert narcissist. Both are awful people. My x and I are in the middle of a horrible separation and constantly in court. I may loose my home of 27 years. My first husband passed in 1999 and I got together with his narcissistic best friend. I put him on my deed for zero equity and now he is out to destroy me any way he can. He truly doesn’t care how it will impact our kids who all live with me. Going to try the inflate and burst tactic in court. He is violent and scary too. Just the other day he found me on the road and was tailgating me and honking his horn harrassing me. To top it off my mother has been awful. She is mean to my 12 year old daughter. I Don’t care if she hurts me because I have learned to deal with it but my child ...no way! My mother went into a rage with my daughter over nothing. My mother has been mean to my daughter many times since she was 3 years old. It reminds me of how she treated me. When my mother screamed and called my daughter every horrible name in the book, I fought back and yelled and screamed at her, “shut up, zip your mouth, don’t you ever treat my daughter that way.” Later I told her it was how she treated and treats me. I told her how she called me a little bitch ever since I was young. She said, “I don’t remember but it’s true, you were a bitch.” My mother lives in Maryland and I live in New York. I was happy when she went back to Maryland. Since the episode with my daughter all she does is tell me how my daughter is a terrible person, she has evil eyes like her father (the narc), she’s a brat ect.... I told my mother that she hit my boundary and not to speak badly about my daughter again, I don’t want to hear it. She said well the truth hurts. She recently started talking about how she is changing her will to by pass me and cut my daughter out. In 2012 my only sibling ended his life with a gun shot. My mother tortured my brother his hole life. He was the favorite child...she still tells me to this day, She paralyzed him to the point where he couldn’t make a decision or even was in touch with his feelings. She hated his x wife and fiancée who are both amazing woman. They are like sisters to me. She gave my brother pills for anxiety...he eventually became addicted. So sad and awful to say out loud that I blame her solely for my brother’s death. When we were young and afraid we would snuggle in a single bed tickling each other’s backs. It has been 2 days since I have distanced myself from my mother. She last said to me have a good life but as I type this letter she has called and left nasty messages, texted me and now called my son. Not sure I will cut her out completely....will consider some limited contact. I don’t like to be a hateful person but a part of me hates my own mother. That is just a tiny drop of everything going on....sometimes I feel between my x and my mother that I just don’t know how much more I can take.
Hi Michele,
ReplyDeleteThank you for all you do.... I guess my bell recently went off and now it all makes sense. My mother is a narcissist and my x is a covert narcissist. Both are awful people. My x and I are in the middle of a horrible separation and constantly in court. I may loose my home of 27 years. My first husband passed in 1999 and I got together with his narcissistic best friend. I put him on my deed for zero equity and now he is out to destroy me any way he can. He truly doesn’t care how it will impact our kids who all live with me. Going to try the inflate and burst tactic in court. He is violent and scary too. Just the other day he found me on the road and was tailgating me and honking his horn harrassing me. To top it off my mother has been awful. She is mean to my 12 year old daughter. I Don’t care if she hurts me because I have learned to deal with it but my child ...no way! My mother went into a rage with my daughter over nothing. My mother has been mean to my daughter many times since she was 3 years old. It reminds me of how she treated me. When my mother screamed and called my daughter every horrible name in the book, I fought back and yelled and screamed at her, “shut up, zip your mouth, don’t you ever treat my daughter that way.” Later I told her it was how she treated and treats me. I told her how she called me a little bitch ever since I was young. She said, “I don’t remember but it’s true, you were a bitch.” My mother lives in Maryland and I live in New York. I was happy when she went back to Maryland. Since the episode with my daughter all she does is tell me how my daughter is a terrible person, she has evil eyes like her father (the narc), she’s a brat ect.... I told my mother that she hit my boundary and not to speak badly about my daughter again, I don’t want to hear it. She said well the truth hurts. She recently started talking about how she is changing her will to by pass me and cut my daughter out. In 2012 my only sibling ended his life with a gun shot. My mother tortured my brother his hole life. He was the favorite child...she still tells me to this day, She paralyzed him to the point where he couldn’t make a decision or even was in touch with his feelings. She hated his x wife and fiancée who are both amazing woman. They are like sisters to me. She gave my brother pills for anxiety...he eventually became addicted. So sad and awful to say out loud that I blame her solely for my brother’s death. When we were young and afraid we would snuggle in a single bed tickling each other’s backs. It has been 2 days since I have distanced myself from my mother. She last said to me have a good life but as I type this letter she has called and left nasty messages, texted me and now called my son. Not sure I will cut her out completely....will consider some limited contact. I don’t like to be a hateful person but a part of me hates my own mother. That is just a tiny drop of everything going on....sometimes I feel between my x and my mother that I just don’t know how much more I can take.