Teach Children of a Narcissistic Parent to EMPATHIZE!!

Qualities of a narcissist:

 Self-centered. His needs are paramount.

. No remorse for mistakes or misdeeds.

 Unreliable, undependable.

 Does not care about the consequences of his actions.

 Projects faults on to others. High blaming behavior; never his fault.

 Little if any conscience.

 Insensitive to needs and feelings of others.

 Has a good front (persona) to impress and exploit others.

 Low stress tolerance. Easy to anger and rage.

 People are to be manipulated for his needs.

 Rationalizes easily. Twists conversation to his gain at other’s expense.  If trapped, keeps talking, changes the subject or gets angry.

 Pathological lying.

 Tremendous need to control situations, conversations, others.

 No real values. Mostly situational.

This list can go on and on.....but there is ONE quality that 
NO NARCISSIST is able to possess ......EMPATHY.

Empathy is the ability to feel someone else's pain in your own heart. 

Many children of narcissistic parents tend to imitate their parents as a coping mechanism, possibly thinking that if they can simply be more like this parent then they will get the love and acceptance that they are craving. 

In many cases the healthy parent watches their children erase their personalities,  emotions,  joy.....all in hopes of getting small crumbs of approval a narcissistic parent.  Many children of people with NPD are serious toddlers that  rarely smile, never laugh, stifle their emotions and well......act just like the abusive parent.  In scary situations they do not cry, do not reach out for comfort...they get swallowed up in narcissistic quick sand right before the other parents eyes.

When those that leave the narcissist when their children are still relatively young, the battle is a tiny bit easier to help them. Some parents find themselves fueled by pain, feeling as if they let their children down, hadn't protected them, hadn't  realized they were suffering, If that's your case, do not let those negative feelings hold you down. Make it your mission to help your children, to yank them out of the narcissistic web that their parent tried to bury them in. 

First on your list may be to help them to learn empathy....to connect with feelings whether they were their own or those of another person. If a child can feel empathy......they CANNOT fully be overtaken by narcissism!!!

Some of the tools many have used were movies as well as books...ANYTHING that could teach a life lesson,

IF your child is struggling with connecting emotionally.....do not give up thinking that you have lost the battle against narcissism. It takes time for a child that has never been "allowed" to feel due to the narcissistic parent....to feel safe with their emotions.

Don't make the mistake that  many have made...thinking that she simply was a "serious" child that showed little emotion. No....she was a beautiful, loving, caring, creative child who stifled her inner beauty because it was met with negativity from a narcissistic parent. Many are able to experience the joy when they see their children getting back n touch with their core person....:but it is not an easy journey, though most definitely one worth the effort. Take advantage of when your children are still young and impressionable to mold them into caring, empathetic and kind individuals!!! Here are some truly helpful books that are designed to help children develop empathy:

Just Because: Where Seeing Another Point of View Makes a Better You

Stand in My Shoes: Kids Learning About Empathy


Master of Mindfulness: How to Be Your Own Superhero in Times of Stress What If Everybody Did That?

What If Everybody Did That?