Monday, August 6, 2018

Is Mgtow The Result of Female Narcissistic Abuse???






I received an email in response to a reader of the book Dating Harley Quinn (https://payhip.com/b/a31b) which basically stated that any man that would go through what this true story portrays - would go mgtow.
What is mgtow and could there be a connection between the acronym - which stands for -Men Going Their Own Way and female narcissistic abuse?
That was my question and I searched this whole weekend for a connection between why men would reject relationships with women, and puposely choose to be alone rather than chance starting another relationship with the potential of finding a loving, healthy, reciprocal relationship.

The more I read, the more personal experiences I learned about, the more I was convinced that so many of these guys fell into the claws of female narcissists and hadn't realized what happened. If you are a guy raised by a female narcisissist, possibly codependent because of the mother son dynamics that narcisistic mothers create - then sadly, it's quite likely that a guy like that, winds up dating women with those same characteristics - you know, the kind of woman that is the sun and you are expected to revolve around; the kind of woman that is oblivious to your needs (you mean you have needs?) yes the kind of woman that only TAKES in a relationship and gives only crumbs of what love may appear to be like. Narcissistic women fuel themselves by breaking a guy over and over, and just when he feels broken and has one foot out the door.....narcisistic women relish in the power of being able to convince the guy to trust her and love her one more time. How empowering it is for these women to fool a man once again, the only vendetta is to break him even more.

Now imagine you are that guy - and this is ALL you know!!
Mgtow begins to sound really, really good at this point. And for some, they are happy being alone and that's ok. But if you're not.....

That's why knowledge regarding narcissistic abuse - especially the emotional, psychological abuse that narcisistic women inflict on men is so vital.
If you do not know or recognize that you have been raised by a toxic, narcissistic mother and then dated narcissistic women or borderlines, histrionics or any cocktail of cluster b's - then you are bound to give up and think ALL women are evil, toxic, soul sucking creatures not worth the time of day. Sadly, there are a lot of narcissists out there, but there are also a lot of amazing people as well. True strength and healing doesn't come from cutting oneself off from society, rather it comes from having the inner strength to live among society yet still be able to carve out a life in which you feel happy, enriched and have embraced a life that is truly rewarding.



6 comments:

  1. Yes, I am that guy and it is all that I've known. I can relate to this post and it is hard to have hope that things can change when you feel you have been completely erased. I am thankful that I found your site because it has validated what has happened to me and pointed me in the right direction as far as recovery, but the honest truth today is I'm unsure if recovery is possible for me. I've fallen for the trap so many times it is incredibly embarrassing. I have a combined 40 years of narcissist abuse. It wasn't until I found this site which lead me to do more research and then found a book on Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist that I finally know the truth. Now in my early 50's I can try to begin the healing process. I feel I am so far in the hole that I won't be able to climb out but I'm trying.

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  2. I'm also that person, I'm in the later half of my 6th decade, and am am stuck in a 24year marriage with another narcissist. I've just discovered your channel, and I'm finally discovering why the cycle keeps repeating despite my efforts to be a good husband, and companion. I've become so damaged that I'm doubting my ability to have a happy and healthy relationship.

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  4. Went through hell with an npd female for 10+ years, sad but true I will probably never trust a woman again past a certain point, or anyone for that matter. Life is good alone, well with kids, friends and family not really alone.. A relationship has certain perks, but not enough to really sign your soul and trust away. If laws changed I might reconsider, right now in North AmericA its suicide to marry or even common law.

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  5. It seems the MGTOW community has a myriad of followers with varying issues against women and marriage, and I agree that narcissistic abuse likely plays large a role. The other part (which is likely up for some debate) is that some men who divorce might often, but not always, end up losing financial freedom. I sometimes wonder if MGTOW is an overreaction to real issues that men face in Western societies. It could also be that the type of men who attract women with narcissistic traits continue to attract the same type of women over and over again, eventually giving up on romantic relationships altogether.

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