There is nothing more frightening that standing before a stranger that has the power to decide who your children are to spend the majority of their life with. This stranger, fooled by the false image of a narcissistic parent has the ability to send innocent children to a life sentence of emotional, psychological and even spiritual abuse.
The sad thing is that judge, that stranger in a robe and a condescending glare is clueless to the damage
they are inflicting.
How is it the narcissist is able to fool people of prestige and such high intellect and schooling?
The narcissist lives to manipulate people and when they are trying to manipulate people of high positions, the better performance they give; after all what a high of narcissistic supply it is for a narcissist to such powerful people into believing his/her own delusion.
Their performance in the courtroom is award winning.
The sad part is, the narcissist does not truly care about the children, this display of parental rights and parental love does not stem from a heart of genuine love but rather a vengeful heart bent only on "winning" custody or the majority of parenting time.
If the narcissist put the same effort into loving their children as opposed to putting effort into convincing OTHERS that they love their children, there would be no reason to fight for custody or visitation.
But, because this act is simply to win, to punish the other parent and/or to gain narcissistic supply...it is vital for the Non-narc parent to understand what to expect at court and how to present the strongest case possible.
One of the first and foremost things to remember is the need for EVIDENCE.
You cannot go to court "telling" the judge what is going on and expect the judge to believe you if you have no evidence.
Do not expect empathetic judges, many are narcissists themselves or if they aren't they are lied to all day by people pretending to be victims that sadly, when someone truly is a victim they are not quick to believe but rather belittle.
Many victims have told me they have been yelled at by judges, put down, had their testimony treated in a condescending way, and felt outright discriminated against, simply because they were trying to expose the truth.
The court room is a battlefield and the better prepared you are, the more likely a positive outcome.
Ignorance is not a valid excuse.
If you are going to court against a narcissist, even if you have a lawyer, you MUST do your homework. Often lawyers will not tell you all that you can do to present a strong case, you will have to do a lot of the legwork.
Begin with looking up the best interest factors of the child in your state. Once you have them listed, begin gathering evidence as to each point!!
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