There are times when a person has been witness to a narcissist crying and it can cause you to pause, self examine your view of this person and you may even soften on your harsh view of this person as being an emotional vampire, lacking not only genuine empathy but also a soul!!
If you have ever changed your opinion of a narcissist because of this seemingly bit of evidence of true emotion, consider yourself duped once again by the master manipulating narcissist.
So then why do narcissists cry?
Or should I ask, how can an unfeeling, unemphatic person display....well, empathy?
A true narcissist can mirror emotion very well. Remember though, that the narcissist always has an agenda, they always have a reason for EVERYTHING that they do. Sometimes they cry to fool you so that you change your view of them, so that you doubt your own perceptions, or to appeal to your forgiving nature. Sometimes they cry for show, especially if there is an audience. The narcissist loves to have everyone admire them as being something they truly are not!! This gives them tremendous amounts of narcissistic supply.
Some narcissists cry with seemingly real tears. Often this kind of narcissist is thinking about a situation they have faced and the tears are actually for them, they are so good at giving themselves self pity.
Regardless of the reasons why a narcissist cries, rest assured this is not evidence of empathy. If you want to know if they have empathy ask yourself has the narcissist ever showed empathy for YOU, has the narcissist ever cared when YOU were sick or suffered a misfortune, or when YOU were in need?
If there has never been an ounce of empathy towards their family members, especially when there is no audience, cry all they want....this is not true empathy but once again another manipulative act on the narcissists part.
DO NOT BE FOOLED BY FAKE DISPLAYS OF EMPATHY
Wow this is the first time I heard anyone talk about the narcissist crying. I was dating a guy that would often start crying when I tried to express to him (as nicely as possible) my needs, and he would act as if I was unfairly criticizing him. I am a very empathetic person and it's usually fairly easy for me to understand what a person is going through, but his tears always confused me as I would feel nothing. It felt so out of place. Trying to understand, I would say something like, "I see that you're upset," and he would say "You wanna make me even more upset by keep talking about it?" It was such a surreal experience.
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